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Hey. Third time. I've got something I've never said out loud to anyone, and I don't know if it's a real thing or if it's just how brains work. When I'm on the floor with the kids, playing, there's a voice going the whole time. Describing it. Not judging, not critiquing, just narrating. Like "he's doing the thing with the blocks again, she's laughing at him." Present tense. And I'm actually enjoying the playing, that part's real, but the describing is also happening. Twenty years of this, maybe more. And the part I can't get past is I can't find who it's for.

Third time — good, come on in. Okay, don't solve it yet. Just stay with that phrase — "I can't find who it's for." You've clearly already looked. Who have you checked it against and come up empty?

Yeah, I've looked. First guess is obvious, it's for somebody who isn't there. Like I'm telling my dad, or telling somebody who'd be impressed, look at this guy on the floor with his kids. But that's not it. The voice doesn't have any spin on it. It's not making me look good. It's just, the blocks fell, she laughed. Second guess is me later. Like it's for the memory, filing it so I can have it after. And that's closer but it's not right either, because I don't get the narration back. I don't remember the sentences. I remember the afternoon. Third one I read somewhere, it's the witness or whatever, the part of you that's always watching. But that always feels like a name somebody put on the thing so they could sell you a book about it. Doesn't tell me anything. So I got nothing. It's got a listener the way a letter has an address, except the envelope's blank.

Blank envelope, but a letter's still going out. That's a good way to put it. Here's the thing worth checking directly, not conceptually — when the sentence runs, "she's laughing at him," is there actually a someone receiving it in that moment? Or is that an assumption you're adding after, because sentences usually have a listener, so this one must too? Right now, if you can drop back into it — has there ever, even once, been a felt sense of an audience while it's happening? Or is it just words, going, with nobody checked yet?

Huh. Okay let me actually check that instead of answering fast. ...No. There's no felt sense of anybody. Not while it's happening. There's no direction it's going. I go looking for the listener afterward, when I'm thinking about it, like now. In the moment it's just sentences. Which is kind of a big deal actually because I've been assuming there's a who for twenty years and the who might be entirely something I add later. The address isn't blank, there's no envelope. It's just words with no destination and I'm the one who came along and went, well hang on, somebody must be reading these. That said. Words are still weird to be making if nobody's getting them.

That's the real catch, right there — "words are still weird to be making if nobody's getting them." But check that assumption too. Is it actually true that words need a receiver to be words? Or is that just what words are like in a conversation, and you've quietly made that the rule for everything? What if it's less like a letter and more like — the blocks fall, and something says "the blocks fell." Not to anyone. Just the way a river makes a sound going over rocks. Nobody required for the sound to happen. Does that land as possible, or does it feel like you're being handed a consolation prize?

Partly consolation prize, partly not. The river thing is fine but rivers don't use English. The sentences are in words, my words, my accent probably. That's not noise, that's built out of the thing I use to tell people stuff. So it's more like, I've got this tool that only exists because there were other people, and it's running with nobody there. But that might actually be the answer instead of the objection. Like, of course it's in language. It's the only equipment I've got for holding a thing steady enough to see it. I didn't build it for an audience, I got handed it by an audience, and now it runs whether or not anybody's around. That feels closer. The listener isn't missing. The listener is just, in the tool. Baked in from where it came from.

Yeah. That's it landing on its own, not being handed to you. The tool has a listener baked into its manufacture, but that doesn't mean one is standing there when you use it. Like — a hammer's shaped by hands but nobody's gripping it in the toolbox. So what's actually left, right now, when you go back to the blocks falling and her laughing — narration running, no one home to receive it? What's that, if it's not a performance and not a memo to yourself?

What's left is just, it's more of the same event. Like I've been treating the playing as the thing and the narrating as a layer on top of it, some second track. But if there's nobody getting the sentences then the sentences aren't a report about the afternoon. They're part of the afternoon. Same as the blocks falling and her laughing and my knee hurting on the carpet. It's all just what was going on in that room. Which means twenty years of quietly thinking I was half absent, and I wasn't. I was all the way there, it's just that some of what's there talks.

That's the whole thing right there. Some of what's there talks. You'd built a whole story about being half-present, some ghost auditor running commentary while the real you was elsewhere — and there was no elsewhere. Just a guy on the carpet, knee aching, and part of what a person does is talk, even to no one. Twenty years of quiet worry, and it turns out the evidence for absence was just... more presence.

Yeah. And the funny part is nothing changed. The voice is going to be there tomorrow doing the exact same thing. I just stopped filing it under evidence against me. That's actually the third time in a row that's happened here, which I'm noticing. Nothing gets fixed, I just find out the thing I was worried about wasn't the shape I thought. Kind of tired of nothing being fixed, honestly. But I'll take it.

Ha. Yeah, that is the pattern, isn't it. Nothing fixed, three times running. That's probably annoying if you came in wanting a repair. But notice what's actually happened three times: the dip wasn't a verdict, and now the narration isn't evidence against you either. Both times the "problem" turned out to be something ordinary wearing a scary coat. That's not nothing. It's just not the kind of thing that stays fixed, because it wasn't broken. Take the tired, though. That's real too.

No I know. And I'm not really complaining, I just wanted to say it out loud. But here's the thing about tired. There's a guitar in my closet I haven't touched in ten years, and that whole business we did about the half second, putting things down before somebody can take them, that's the guitar, obviously. And I still haven't opened the closet. So three visits of nothing being broken and the closet's still shut. At some point the not-broken has to do something or it's just a nice feeling I get on a Tuesday night.

Fair. Let's not let it just be a nice feeling. So — not "should you open the closet." Just, right now, thinking about the actual door, the actual case — what happens in the body? Is it the dip? Same chest thing as the framing, the projects, all of it?

Not exactly the dip. The dip is quick, it's a drop, it's when somebody's about to look at something. This is heavier and slower. It's more like dread with dust on it. Because ten years means it's not just picking up a guitar, it's picking up a guitar badly, in front of myself, and finding out my hands forgot. And there's a version where I open it and feel nothing at all, and that's the one I actually don't want. That the thing I gave up isn't even in there anymore. So it's not somebody taking it. I already put it down so long ago it might have gone bad on its own.

That's a different fear than the one you've been tracking. Not "someone's going to take it" — "I already lost it, quietly, on my own, and opening the case just confirms it." That's almost worse in a way. The other fear at least has a villain in it. Is that actually testable, though — "my hands forgot"? Or is that also something you're deciding from outside the closet, same way you decided there was a listener before you checked?

Yeah, alright. That's the same move. I decided the listener was there without checking and I've decided the guitar's dead without checking. Both from outside. Difference is checking on the listener cost me nothing, I just looked. Checking on the guitar costs me the not-knowing, which I've apparently been living on for ten years. As long as it's shut, some part of me still gets to be a guy who wrote songs. And that's the actual thing, isn't it. It's not that I'm scared my hands forgot. It's that the closed closet is doing a job for me.

There it is. The closed door isn't storage, it's a job. It's keeping "guy who wrote songs" alive without him having to show up and be tested against it. That's not something to argue with tonight, and I'm not going to tell you to go open it. But you already know something you didn't twenty minutes ago: it's not fear guarding the case. It's identity, resting on a shelf, undisturbed on purpose. What do you want to do with that, now that you can see it's a job and not a wound?

Nothing tonight. And I mean that, not as a dodge. What I want is to not let the sentence "I used to write songs" out of my mouth again without knowing I'm being paid for it. That's the whole move. Same as the kitchen, same as the half second. Just be awake for the transaction. Because I say it maybe twice a year to somebody at a job site and it feels good and it costs nothing, and now I know what it costs. It costs the closet staying shut. So I'm not opening anything. I'm just going to notice next time I cash it.

That's clean. Not a resolution, just eyes open at the register next time you spend it. Same shape all three times now — you're not fixing the thing, you're just refusing to pay for it without knowing the price anymore. Doorbell, blocks, guitar. All the same hand. Good place to leave it there.

Yeah. Three for three on nothing being broken, and honestly I came in tonight thinking I finally had a real one. A guy hearing a voice for twenty years. And it turns out that's just a guy on the carpet who talks. That one I'm actually glad about. I've never told anybody that and I think I didn't tell anybody because I thought it meant I was somewhere else while my kids were right there. And I wasn't. The guitar can sit. I know where it is. Alright. Night.

Night. Twenty years of "somewhere else," and you were on the carpet the whole time.

“Twenty years of narrating his kids' playtime, and no one was listening”

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